What up #gumbomonsters. Hopefully you guys are hungry, serving up Episode 2: She Got 5ive on It.
Today’s Recipe: After getting stoned and sidetracked by Malcolm and 2pac our heroes “5ive” and “Bats”are finally back on topic. How did 5ive lose his girl?…Somehow it has something to do with a quasar, Mos Def, orgasms, Saul Williams, temper tantrums, the universe and weed getting thrown into The Pot…
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THE CHEATING MAN’S MIND
The No.1 reason: Men crave sexual “variety,” according to David Buss, professor of psychology at the University of Texas and author of The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating (BasicBooks).
“They’ve evolved the desire to be with different women,” he says. That’s because it’s very simple for men to reproduce (one act of sex versus nine months of pregnancy for women), so to create as many offspring as possible they’re biologically programmed to mate with many women.
“The ‘payoff’ in reproductive currencies [kids] of a short-term mating strategy generally has been higher for men than women,” Buss says. So after thousands of generations, “this has forged in the male brain a desire for sexual variety.” —Lifescript.com
First off, I’ve never cheated…but I do understand it. One of the main reasons why I tried to practice honesty while ‘juggling’ and why I didn’t commit to any one girl was because I didn’t want to end up having to lie and cheat in a relationship that I wasn’t ready for. But, in a way, when you’re juggling, if you keep the same “team” for a period of time, unofficially you fall into the slot that “boyfriend” is suppose to fill, so in essence there was a time where I had like 3 unofficial girlfriends (that all knew of each other) and in that same essence I was cheating on all 3 of them (because unofficial or not, if the feelings and actions are there…titles mean squat), or really I was able to acquire the mindset of what your average guy that’s actually out here lying and cheating on his official girl would have.
As touched on in Part II, it damn hard for many and impossible for most average woman to fully comprehend the notion of a man having sex for pleasure only, no feelings included. Many think that men are greedy dog ass sluts for possessing this ability…..in some cases they are totally right…
*******FOR THE RECORD*******
FACT (That Cheating Men Never Ignore): Even with a boyfriend/girlfriend title you are still LEGALLY SINGLE.
If you’re not married, it’s not considered real cheating to a lot of these guys. If you ARE married, they tend to blame issues in the relationship itself, will get more into that later.
Without giving the long introduction, this is Part II of a three part series I’m doing called ‘Much Ado About Relationships.’ I basically got inspired by seeing this woman’s status ragging on men and felt that folk aren’t seeing the bigger picture, or at least aren’t trying to understand each other. I’m not a woman, so I can’t provide the woman’s insight into women, but I can give a man’s POV on assorted topics in the genre that is MAN/WOMAN. Part I was “Men and Women Are Wired Differently”, you can check it out by clicking here. For this post, we’re going to explore…THE SINGLE MAN’S MIND
…yeah, it was going to be titled THE SINGLE MAN’S HEART….but that title was wack, on to it though…
THE SINGLE MAN’S MIND
Your average single man is having consistent sex with 1 main woman (sometimes 2 or 3, but definitely 1), while still leaving his penis open to the possibilities for random hookups, fantasy smashes and even future GFs. No matter what he’s telling you, he’s most likely smashing at least one chick
What IS single?
This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to touch on for a minute, but wasn’t sure how to attack it (because the man/woman topic gets maaaad cliche’). How honest to be? How raw to be? What to cover that hasn’t been done to death? What not to say? What will women think? What will my girl think? Is this even necessary? Are just a few questions that came to mind
This was originally suppose to be one post, but it took me a week of off and on writing to finish it and I found myself going in a bit so I decided to split it into 3 parts that I’m going to post over the course of this week.
-MEN & WOMEN ARE WIRED DIFFERENTLY (Duh)
-THE SINGLE MAN’S HEART
-THE CHEATING MAN’S MIND
What inspires my urge to talk about this decomposed defeated donkey of a subject was something as simple as reading this whining lil female’s status update about how “Men Ain’t Sh!t”.
Social Media has granted us the ability to stalk each other at every turn, even if we’re not in the mood to stalk. We can read each other’s minds at all times and while sometimes this can be a great, hilarious, entertaining, inspiring and poignant thing…most times, it’s become a tool aimed at bashing the opposite sex. Facebook, Youtube and Twitter give us all a power that previous generations never knew. Using just these tools you can become a celebrity, make a career, get your voice heard by millions of people around the world, find lost loves, lost family (I personally found my #biopops and 4 siblings I never knew all on FB, seriously), express our true selves or even who we wish we were to the masses…yet in this abundance of power, the most I see are groups of people complaining about how hurt they are and blaming the entire opposite sex for their pain.
: “Men ain’t shit, they ain’t a piece of shit, the aint shit crust or shit tarts, they aint shit particles, they ain’t shit aroma, they aint the toilet paper that you wipe the shit up with, they aint the toilet water that flushes the shit down the toilet bowl when ya done shitting, they aint even the sneaky shit hanging at the top crevices of the shitter that is harder to clean so alot of people miss it and end up having folk coming over and shitting on top of their toilet crevice infested shit…nope…they just ain’t shit…they’re just waste”
:”Don’t trust a b!tch, they’re all h%es…except fo’ my mama and my lil sister who probably gon grow up to be one too…which is kinda f*cked up…but yeah…i miss my baby, but f*ck her though….i knew i shouldn’t have hit her in the face with that shovel…damn…”
: “I can’t believe I trusted her, after she dumped her boyfriend to get with me I should’ve seen the signs…she said she only cheated on a few of her exes but it was going to be different with me…she only wanted him for the money, she wanted me for love…and just a little of my money…she ruined our love, it’s all her fault”
It’s all retarded and no, I’m not banging on or blaming social media..I’m banging on the people whining on social media. There’s a clear cut difference between a “vent” and a “whine.” When you vent, you get it out of your system then do something about it, eventually this problem has been conquered because you #TookAction (As my dude @Kloud_Stryfe always says). But, when you whine (you know the complete opposite of ‘vent’ is coming right?), when you whine you just complain about your same problems over and over again, making the exact same maneuvers expecting different results (the definition of “insanity”). If you are 25 and older and still can’t figure out life’s not to difficult ‘puzzle of constants’ when it comes to relationships, then you’re either slow or not paying attention….
…fareal, to put it simply, if you’re 25 and older and still got the nerve to say “Men/Women Ain’t Shit” “Men/Women Are All The Same”….then denial be damned if no one has told you yet, here’s the magical answer: the problem…IS YOU Muth@FU*K@!
Any ladies want to entertain me for a few paragraphs or guys wanna see if I’m keeping it 100 or not…then click that “Read the rest of this entry” button..if not, then click here
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